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Déjà vu – Unconscious warnings?

“Several psychoanalysts attribute déjà vu to simple fantasy or wish fulfillment, while some psychiatrists ascribe it to a mismatching in the brain that causes the brain to mistake the present for the past. Many parapsychologists believe it is related to a past-life experience. Obviously, there is more investigation to be done.” (http://www.howstuffworks.com/question657.htm)

The term déjà vu is French and means “already seen” and is sometimes called paramnesia (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/D%C3%A9j%C3%A0_vu). It is the feeling of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. The “previous” experience is usually attributed to a dream but sometimes experience fells like it actually happened in the past.

I am one of the ‘lucky’ people who experiences déjà vu occasionally no way as much as I used to when I was younger.  In at least one case I could attribute the feeling to a sort of ‘out of body’ dream/experience I had many years earlier.  In that case, I was looking of a photograph of an old colonial house in India – where I have never been to physically but have been to in my mind!  I had a lot of those ‘out of body’ experiences in my adolescence and early teenage years but that is a subject of another post.  Most of my experiences, I can point to dreams as the source but occasionally, I can’t even remember what caused the ‘previous’ experience.

Recently something that has never happened before with my déjà vu episodes.  I met an old friend in another city and we did a bit of shopping, had lunch and had a great walkabout the city with a few ‘re-fueling’ stops on the way, 14 years is a long time to catch up on.  Normally, I would have visited many more establishments but my friend is not much of a drinker.  I am quite happy finding a nice spot to view the world go by and sip on cold beers for a whole afternoon.  So by the evening, I was tired, just wanted to find somewhere to sit, have something to eat and we were still walking round in circles.

Anyway, I slipped into MacDonald’s to use the facilities and as I was in there, I had the great sense of having been in this situation, in this place, before, in a dream not a month old, before I knew I was going to meet up with this friend.  But now get this, I also knew that if I did not change my mood and handle the situation delicately, I might hurt my friendship.  Needless to say, I walked out and gently we steered ourselves to an eating establishment where I had my beer and I bought him dinner.  The jet-lag had kicked in so we called it a day with my dear friendship intact.

It made me wonder about dreams and déjà vu and I am still wondering.

May you find the balance.